Let’s just be honest…

Let's just be honest | lovely letters

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Dear Friend,

Can I just come out and say what everyone else is thinking? and what other people have probably already said…

Joanna Gaines, I love you!

I mean look at how cute she and Chip are! UGH!

Let's just be honest | lovely letters

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K great. That’s all.

xx Katie

#girlcrush

Superpowers

Superpowers | lovely letters

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Dear Friend,

Superpowers have been pouring into my life from every angle recently. This is SUCH a bizarre trend, but really they’re everywhere.

Obviously I’ve seen movies where there are super powers and maybe once or twice at camp I was asked what my superpower of choice would be as an icebreaker. But never in real life has a superpower come up. Until now…

Emailing wedding photographers.

This is essentially what consumes my downtime, my lunch breaks, even my dreams. I spend a lot of my free head space coming up with questions for photographers, itemizing potential costs that might make photographers as expensive as they are, contemplating how I might get along with various photographers and whether or not that would show up in the photos, etc. I have been in talks with upwards of 10 photographers – all amazing, all incredibly friendly and excited, and all shockingly expensive. Basically what’s happening is the price tag outweighs any personality and I move on to the next.

Until the other day.

I stumbled upon the most beautiful site belonging to a married couple who does wedding photography. They charge just a little bit less than everyone else, and in addition to following up with a price estimate they sent a link to “getting to know you” questions. I’m a total sucker for personality quizzes and random games of 20 questions, so I jumped at the chance to talk/type about myself. The questions were unique and interesting and I was thrilled to answer them especially because I’m basically internet dating photographers at this point. If I answer the questions with sincerity and vibrance, maybe we’ll hit it off! Anyways, the last question… “what’s your superpower?” I had never seriously considered superpowers, but this scenario felt like I should give it some thought.

Pre-massage paperwork. 

Two friends gave me the incredible gift of a massage gift card. Well done friends! So on Saturday I went in for the massage. Part of the “get there fifteen minutes early” suggestion is to settle in, get some basic additional pampering, and fill out a little form that lets the masseuse know of any potential injuries and particular areas of tension. This form however, took it a step further. The last question was “real or imagined, what is your superpower?”

This article. 

Kate Arends beautifully wrote an essay dedicated to wellness and mental health advocacy. She is eloquent and honest and compassionate. One of her final lines states, “You have an opportunity to turn what makes you special into your very own superpower.”

SUPERPOWERS EVERYWHERE!

So long story short, I’ve thought a lot about my superpower recently.

The answer I’ve landed on is a real “superpower” – implicit trust. 

I’ve never, never had anything remotely in the neighborhood of trust issues.  I always believe what people tell me, unless of course they’re insane – I’m not gullible. Good or bad that’s what it is. And so, I’ve decided to take this quality and see it as a superpower.

Oh! and just so you know, for the photographer’s question, my leading man and I answered for each other. His superpower from my perspective is superhuman strength and healing, and mine is mind control over him! Silly guy.

What is your superpower?

xx Katie

Dear April

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Dear April,

I missed March! I missed the whole thing!

I didn’t actually miss it, but part of my birthday gift to myself was downtime. As such, any and all downtime that came up was savored. It was a great choice and here’s why.

Sometimes (most times) I get caught up in just about everything. I hold on to details longer than I should. I procrastinate on making decisions that carry a lot of weight. I take in and overanalyze every opinion that’s offered. Basically, all of the things that hinder confident decision-making and cause emotional breakdowns, I do.

Enter wedding planning.

I am so beyond over-the-moon to be engaged. I can’t express to you how much fun it is to tell the proposal story ten times a day, to wear a sparkly ring that means forever, to be all in with the best guy I know, and to essentially start thinking about what a lifetime with him will look like. Wedding planning, however, is a different story.

I will be the first to admit that I am a perfectionist and a control freak. I enjoy doing things with a focus on the details. I like doing things myself when I can. And most of all I enjoy following rules. None of this makes planning a wedding yourself easier. As such, I’ve already gotten stressed and broken down and cried too many times. However, I have finally (after the gift of downtime) come to the realization that it doesn’t need to be a full-time job and that there are no rules.

The ceremony and the party that follows will be a tribute to the next phase of our love story. We will be surrounded by people who love us and want to support us. People will dance and sing and have a blast. All of this will happen regardless of the color of the carpet or the number of flowers on each table or the flavor of the cake. All of the good things will happen simply because we are getting married and couldn’t be more excited to do so.

My goal for April (and the next year) is to keep all of this in mind when I find myself getting wrapped up in things that are trivial. I’ll keep you posted on how that goes.

What’s on your plate this month?

xx Katie