Too Excited

Too Excited | lovely letters

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Dear Friend,

I read an article the other day entitled “Are We Addicted to Stress?” I thought to myself, “what a ridiculous notion. No one would willingly allow themselves to be stressed.”

I have this concept that stress is a reaction to sticky situations. That when hard or bad things happen then stress appears. Cause and effect. Pretty simple.

After reading this article, though, I think I’m wrong. The article essentially says that stress is a habit and even sometimes a choice. People tend to get stressed in consistent ways, so when your brain recognizes a stressful situation coming it just automatically turns stress on. After a while, your body might be stressing out proactively. It might anticipate a familiar situation and BAM! full-force stress. Other people choose stress in a variety of forms. They stay busy and keep their calendar full so that stress is just built in to every day.

This woke me up. Big time.

The end of last week was some of the best days of my life. My mom came to town on her birthday. We had an incredible dinner and were able to catch up after too much time apart. We spent the next two days shopping for wedding dresses. There was so much love and so many tears of joy in each of the bridal salons, I can’t even explain. Then on Saturday, my future in-laws threw us the most incredible engagement party. It was completely beautiful and filled with so many people who love and support us. Never has there been such an amazing party. Finally, on Sunday morning my dad hosted a brunch for our families and a few friends who were still in town. Again, more love, more champagne, and more food. All of the good things.

The catch?

I had a migraine for the majority of the fun, which put me out of commission for some of it. Migraines happen way too frequently in my life and have happened for as long as I can remember. They are also a pretty common side affect of stress, but it took this past weekend for me to finally connect the dots that my migraines could be stress related.

I get these kinds of migraines when I get too excited, when I’ve had a lot of time to look forward to something, when all of the attention is on me, etc. It started when I was young and has become a theme, so much so that I’ve started prepping for big events by preemptively taking ibuprofen. I have basically given in to the circumstances and have pretty much started telling my body when it should be stressed. The triggers are always the same and so are the results.

So, in addition to keeping track of my headache days and increasing the amount of water I drink to deal with potential dehydration, I’m looking into stress control. I don’t really know what that means or what that will look like but I’m looking into it. I’m trying to make yoga a more serious part of my life. It’s something I’ve loved in the past and want to be more consistent with. This is all in hopes of having a migraine-free wedding day a year from now and really a migraine free life!

How do you deal with stress in your life? 

xx Katie

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Dear January

Dear January | lovely letters

Dear January,

I can’t believe you are already here! I’m shocked that we’re five days into 2015 but am excited and anxious to see what this year has in store!

If 2014 taught me anything, it’s that time flies. Call me a broken record, but I am overwhelmed by how quickly the time is going! Now that I am incredibly aware that this is the case, I’m hoping to take on 2015 a little more informed. In an attempt to hold on to what I’m sure will be countless precious moments, I thought I’d set some foundational resolutions. My overarching theme is to hold on to the things that matter and let go of the things that don’t. Here are my thoughts…

Set high goals but maintain realistic expectations.

Basic, but necessary. I plan to push my self and stay ambitious but to be realistic about how much I can handle.

Strive to maintain balance.

When I’m balanced, I’m happiest so this one was a no-brainer.

Take things as they come.

2014 was a handful in many ways, but I survived. For as much as I prefer to have control in my life, I’m painfully aware that control is not always an option. Instead of stressing over the things that are out of my power, I resolve to take things in stride. Here’s to being graceful when life gets sticky!

Live in the present and relish the moment!

I started out strong with this one. I was lucky enough to have some serious down time in the first few days of the year. Instead of trying to get a jump-start on things, which obviously would have been the most productive choice, I laid low. I slept in and spent time with people I love. Even though I’m a bit behind on some things, it was well worth it.

What about you? Have you started laying the foundation for your 2015?

Happy New Year!

xx Katie

Dear November

Dear November | lovely letters

Dear November,

I’m back in the US! and even though my excuse for being late this month is roughly the same as this one, I think it’s still valid.

While I normally write to each month about upcoming activities and what I’m most excited for, November, you’re different. This month I am feeling predictably Continue reading

On changing my mind

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Dear Friend,

Have you ever changed your mind?

I can only imagine you have because I think most people do. I change my mind constantly. I change my mind about what my favorite food is, what job is best for me, which purse is my favorite, what car I want, about so many things. All pretty frivolous but still changes.

To significantly overanalyze the constant changes, I’d say Continue reading

Darling

Dear Friend,

If ever there was a magazine that I encouraged you to read, it would be Darling Magazine. If you haven’t heard of it before, I so strongly urge you to look into it. This magazine’s sole purpose (and its soul purpose actually) is to navigate the art of being a woman.

The magazine is published quarterly and is filled with intentional articles aimed at building women up in a realistic and hopeful way. Each issue is broken up by “personas” (i.e. Dreamer, Hostess, Confidant, Stylist, etc.), which shape the content and connect to a variety of pieces that make up every woman’s identity. I almost entirely identify with the “Achiever,” but when I read articles and DIYs and stories from the “Dreamer” and the “Intellectual” I am reminded that I have many dimensions. I am constantly grounded by the meaningful topics and the tender community that come with my subscription.

This magazine is working to start a dialogue with women, to challenge what we know about societal expectations, and to pave the way for a more darling future.

With all that said, I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to let you know that the Darling team is considering re-printing their first issue. Selfishly, I would like to have one, but beyond that if you are looking to question what you know about the “modern mold of woman,” then this first issue might be a good place to start.

xx Katie