Too Excited

Too Excited | lovely letters

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Dear Friend,

I read an article the other day entitled “Are We Addicted to Stress?” I thought to myself, “what a ridiculous notion. No one would willingly allow themselves to be stressed.”

I have this concept that stress is a reaction to sticky situations. That when hard or bad things happen then stress appears. Cause and effect. Pretty simple.

After reading this article, though, I think I’m wrong. The article essentially says that stress is a habit and even sometimes a choice. People tend to get stressed in consistent ways, so when your brain recognizes a stressful situation coming it just automatically turns stress on. After a while, your body might be stressing out proactively. It might anticipate a familiar situation and BAM! full-force stress. Other people choose stress in a variety of forms. They stay busy and keep their calendar full so that stress is just built in to every day.

This woke me up. Big time.

The end of last week was some of the best days of my life. My mom came to town on her birthday. We had an incredible dinner and were able to catch up after too much time apart. We spent the next two days shopping for wedding dresses. There was so much love and so many tears of joy in each of the bridal salons, I can’t even explain. Then on Saturday, my future in-laws threw us the most incredible engagement party. It was completely beautiful and filled with so many people who love and support us. Never has there been such an amazing party. Finally, on Sunday morning my dad hosted a brunch for our families and a few friends who were still in town. Again, more love, more champagne, and more food. All of the good things.

The catch?

I had a migraine for the majority of the fun, which put me out of commission for some of it. Migraines happen way too frequently in my life and have happened for as long as I can remember. They are also a pretty common side affect of stress, but it took this past weekend for me to finally connect the dots that my migraines could be stress related.

I get these kinds of migraines when I get too excited, when I’ve had a lot of time to look forward to something, when all of the attention is on me, etc. It started when I was young and has become a theme, so much so that I’ve started prepping for big events by preemptively taking ibuprofen. I have basically given in to the circumstances and have pretty much started telling my body when it should be stressed. The triggers are always the same and so are the results.

So, in addition to keeping track of my headache days and increasing the amount of water I drink to deal with potential dehydration, I’m looking into stress control. I don’t really know what that means or what that will look like but I’m looking into it. I’m trying to make yoga a more serious part of my life. It’s something I’ve loved in the past and want to be more consistent with. This is all in hopes of having a migraine-free wedding day a year from now and really a migraine free life!

How do you deal with stress in your life? 

xx Katie

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Dear May

Dear May | lovely letters

Dear May,

This is going to be a fast and loud month. Oh my word. And there is no time to gear up for it because it’s all here starting tomorrow.

Tomorrow I will be spending the day at a Lovely Letters booth at the Stockmarket!! I will be in downtown Stockton from 11-6, along with other local makers, selling my handmade cards and prints and getting the word out about my love for calligraphy! If anyone is in town or in the area, please drop on by and say hi!

Next up, wedding dresses! It’s happening! My mom is coming to town on her birthday (ideal timing if you ask me) and we will be dress shopping for two days. I can’t wait to share all of the emotions and decision-making tips (if any) from those appointments with you!

Then, we will be having the spiciest engagement party around! It’s a fiesta with mariachi band and sombreros to boot. I mostly can’t wait to walk you through all of the details of prep leading up to the party – the details of making the invites and the decor inspiration and what an incredible mother-in-law I have that she planted cacti with me on Easter Sunday. So many good things to tell!

Anyways, I hope your April was lovely and I would love know what’s in store for you this month!

xx Katie

Dear April

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Dear April,

I missed March! I missed the whole thing!

I didn’t actually miss it, but part of my birthday gift to myself was downtime. As such, any and all downtime that came up was savored. It was a great choice and here’s why.

Sometimes (most times) I get caught up in just about everything. I hold on to details longer than I should. I procrastinate on making decisions that carry a lot of weight. I take in and overanalyze every opinion that’s offered. Basically, all of the things that hinder confident decision-making and cause emotional breakdowns, I do.

Enter wedding planning.

I am so beyond over-the-moon to be engaged. I can’t express to you how much fun it is to tell the proposal story ten times a day, to wear a sparkly ring that means forever, to be all in with the best guy I know, and to essentially start thinking about what a lifetime with him will look like. Wedding planning, however, is a different story.

I will be the first to admit that I am a perfectionist and a control freak. I enjoy doing things with a focus on the details. I like doing things myself when I can. And most of all I enjoy following rules. None of this makes planning a wedding yourself easier. As such, I’ve already gotten stressed and broken down and cried too many times. However, I have finally (after the gift of downtime) come to the realization that it doesn’t need to be a full-time job and that there are no rules.

The ceremony and the party that follows will be a tribute to the next phase of our love story. We will be surrounded by people who love us and want to support us. People will dance and sing and have a blast. All of this will happen regardless of the color of the carpet or the number of flowers on each table or the flavor of the cake. All of the good things will happen simply because we are getting married and couldn’t be more excited to do so.

My goal for April (and the next year) is to keep all of this in mind when I find myself getting wrapped up in things that are trivial. I’ll keep you posted on how that goes.

What’s on your plate this month?

xx Katie

Dear August

Dear August,

I realize you are well on your way, and I am just doing my best to keep up at this point. No one knows how I missed welcoming you in on time, but that happened and we’ve moved on.

The amount of down time I had available in July is directly proportional to the amount of scheduled activities I have this month. It hopefully goes without saying that I’d rather be busy than bored (this is my go to cliché line when someone comments on being busy), but recently it seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day!

First there was the Alameda flea market, where I, for some unknown reason, decided to pass on purchasing the cutest little letterpress ever.

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